The Dentist Visit: How My Son Surprised Me

As a parent, there are certain rites of passage you must undergo to retain your citizenship in parentville. It starts early and continues until you die. Changing a diaper, getting peed on, apologizing to a stranger, getting punched in the throat, helping with homework, missing your show because Yo Gabba Gabba had clogged the DVR storage, etc. But maybe above all others, I have been dreading the dentist visit. My four-year-old had already been to the dentist once. My wife took him since I had "meetings" at work. Truthfully, I don't know if I really did or not. I probably made it up. I just knew I wasn't ready mentally to be a hostage negotiator yet, which is essentially the comparable skill that is required of the job. I never studied such a thing in school.

So you can imagine my apprehension yesterday morning as I approached Antonio on the couch, widening my stance so he couldn't escape, before escorting him forcefully to the car. It was like kicking Lindsay Lohan out of a New York City nightclub, minus the drugs, but pretty much everything else was the same. I mean, the kid begged with such desperation, you'd think I was bringing him to be dropped into a volcano, or to see a Kevin James film.

After about ten minutes of struggle, I was able to strap Antonio into his car seat and was on the road to the dentist's office. I had mercy on him and let him sit in the car for a few minutes before heading in, which in retrospect probably only made it worse.

By the time we'd reached the door to the office, he had managed to calm himself down to a respectable in-public level, now only whispering his discontent to me rather than frantically yelping it. I assumed, of course, this was merely the calm before the proverbial storm. But I tried my best to head in the direction of serenity, directing his attention to the TV nearby that was playing an episode of Dora the Explorer. Seemed to be working. Then, the exact thing I feared that could push his panic into overdrive happened. Some other kid started screaming like he'd just been set on fire. And as Antonio's name was called and we made our way to the hygeniest's chair, I worried that the screaming would be contagious. Here's a sample of it.

Random kid screaming

I was convinced that I was in for it. Hell, the screaming even made ME start to panic! But miraculously, he was fine. Better than fine, he was an absolute angel! He didn't flinch, he cooperated fully, opening mouth wider when asked and staying focused on the Disney Jr. playing on the overhead TV. He was so centered and calm I wondered for the first time if he was actually my son. Then, after walking out of the office and immediately asking for the donut I promised him, I was reminded he was all DeProspero.

 

How do I reward my son for having no cavities? By giving him one.

And all was right with the world.

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Joe DeProspero
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